One-on-one Coaching:
Embodied Pleasure & Intimacy Support
summer sale! 2-hr coaching sessions ~
summer sale! 2-hr coaching sessions ~
Get acquainted with somatic coaching , target a specific challenge, bolster support around existing practices, or orient yourself during difficult times.
We spend this two-hour session diving into your current needs and wants, addressing barriers to getting them met, and equipping you with the tools specific to the circumstances. You'll leave with a clear understanding of doable next steps and documentation of the session so you can review on your own time.
Great option for:
support with a specific pattern or scenario
figuring out what you need in the midst of conflict, opening a relationship, or breaking up
times when you can't commit to ongoing coaching, but need a lil' something
identifying what you want to be working on in therapy, couples counseling, or with another coach
resourcing yourself for an upcoming challenge or digesting a recent one
trying out somatic pleasure coaching
Fall Promo: $399
(Regular Price: $525)
You are here because…
… some part of you believes this doesn’t have to be so hard.
… you have an inkling (or a full-fledged knowing) that pleasure is liberatory.
…you’re craving to go deeper with yourself.
… you’re yearning for wholeness and intimacy.
… you’re ready to up-level your self-love.
I’m here to help you trust your body. I’m here to help you harness the power of your pleasure and nurture the relationships you really want.
Do you:
Ever feel disconnected from your body?
Struggle with intimacy bc you don’t have a good model for your relationships?
Find yourself working a lot more than you know you “should”?
Forget to make time/space for yourself and for your pleasure? Or feel guilt, shame, and self-criticism when you do prioritize your own pleasure?
Often feel like sex is to please someone other than yourself?
Compromise when it comes to your needs, whether they be emotional, sexual, or energetic?
Believe pleasure needs to be earned? That your enjoyment of life comes from your achievements?
Have you:
Felt envious of all those people who seem to just know what they want and how to pursue it?
Had a hard time with the concept that you deserve pleasure?
Ever felt alone or shut down, even in a group of people you know?
Felt like too much and not enough at the same time?
Spent a lot of time and energy prioritizing others’ opinions over your own intuition and happiness?
You might wonder:
Why is it so hard to enjoy sex?
Why don’t I know what I like?
Why are orgasm and pleasure so much easier for other people?
How can I get out of my head and more in my body?
Why can’t I seem to ask for what I want? Why is it so difficult to receive it when it’s offered to me?
Why do I feel unfulfilled and numb when I’ve achieved so much?
What is this nagging feeling like I could be so much happier? Am I doing something wrong?
You actually already have all the keys to these questions.
We just need to make it safer for your body to communicate the answers and teach you how to listen a little differently.
That’s where I come in.
In somatic coaching, we collaborate to uncover your own answers, your own power, your own pleasure.
When we work together, we can explore:
Relationship structures
and your personal ideals; to monogamy or to nonmonogamy?!
Trusting
your own knowing, and listening to your body’s wisdom, so you can be your most badass, fully-expressed, internally-aligned self
Your YES
what resounding, celebratory, curious enthusiasm feels like in your body, mind, and emotions
Working with
the more challenging aspects of our experiences (like anxiety and overwhelm) to love ourselves more deeply
Your NO
how to listen more respectfully to your own boundaries and needs, and how to feel good communicating NOs
Your QUEERNESS!
and/or your questioning.
Even if you’re in a hetero relationship ;)
Unlearning
shame and detrimental beliefs about pleasure so that you can claim it with more ease and empowerment
Using your voice
both inside and out of the bedroom, to deepen intimacy and nurture interdependence
Releasing
the conditioning that makes you feel responsible for other people and their emotions
Kink
and/or how to develop BDSM relationships that support your life
what makes this approach different than everything else you’ve tried?
Pleasure coaching isn’t talk therapy.
It also isn’t mindfulness or yoga therapy. It also isn’t a “how-to” course for discovering pleasure. We combine working with the mind with unwinding protective patterns in the body to allow desire to arise and, more importantly, teach you how to listen to those desires so you can express them in your life. In our sessions, we’re centering bodily experience and emotional presence in a dance of unveiling what you most want (often it’s different than what we *think* we want). This is a hybrid of body, brain, and spiritual processing to build you a personalized toolkit of the pleasure practices that we create together, specifically for you. We’ll do experiential practices in session together and compile you a library of your own tools to keep using without me.
This pleasure coaching is different even from other pleasure coaching.
Much of what you’ll find in the world of pleasure coaching is focused on sex as the primary gateway to the concept of pleasure. Understandably, there are many pleasure coaches who are focused on your sexual pleasure.
My pleasure framework is a truly holistic model, in which we look at balancing your pleasure across four realms of being. This approach helps with your sexual pleasure, and recognizes that your pleasure-based life is so much more than that.
The practices might look like:
Pleasure charts to assess where your pleasure focus needs to be
Dance/movement/crafting prompts to express things that are stuck
Guided somatic inquiry to tend to your unseen parts
Breathwork tailored to specific physical and emotional processing
Journaling sprints to discover deeper desires
Mirror work / affirmations to boost your worthiness
Solo sexuality practices to fall in love with your own touch and expand your sensation vocabulary
Sound expression exercises to practice claiming your voice
What’s included?
30-min consultation call
If your application seems like we might be a good fit, we can do a brief, free-of-charge Zoom call as the next step. This is an opportunity to ask any questions you have about how this work works and what you might want to know about me as a practitioner.
Our collaboration begins with an in-depth intake questionnaire so that our first session can hone right in on some useful tools. Generally we use the intake session to establish goals and metrics for our work together, and make sure you leave with at least one tangible thing to implement.
75-minute Intake Session
60-minute virtual coaching sessions
In these sessions, I hold the container for you to explore what’s present in your pleasure and/or non-monogamy journey. I will offer you specific tools when appropriate, mirror when it’s helpful, and offer you unconditional support for embodying your right fit life.
Typically, clients work with me for a minimum of six months, either weekly or bi-weekly. Some clients work with me to address a specific scenario, and others work with me on an ongoing basis.
(We meet via Zoom, unless you prefer voice calls without video.)
Personalized Toolkit
The personalized practices we create in our time together are yours to keep forever, giving you the opportunity to deepen into this work as much as you like in between our sessions. This includes:
recorded meditations
personalized rituals
pdf worksheets + journal prompts
and whatever we come up with that is unique to you
We need your pleasure liberated.
It truly serves us all
What People Are Saying
There are truly no words to express how grateful I am to have worked with Irene. Of all the practitioners I have worked with, Irene has had the most impact on my overall healing.”
— SG
“Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. This is one of the best things I have ever done for myself. I am so grateful every day that I took this leap.”
— SB
“My relationship with Irene was like nothing I had experienced with other practitioners. I didn't think it was possible to feel so safe while expressing vulnerability.”
— AN
Pricing:
75-min intake session: $275
Drop-in sessions: $225/hr
Package of 12 sessions: $2,220
Package of 6 sessions: $1,215
(packages may be broken into monthly payments)
I do keep some sliding scale spaces available on my schedule.
If you are interested in sliding scale, please fill out the application and indicate so in the designated space.
FAQs:
Is this therapy?
No, I am not a licensed therapist, and I believe for the safety and efficacy of our work together, it’s important to stay within my scope of practice as a somatic coach. Our time together certainly can (for many people does) have therapeutic benefits, but it’s important to me that you understand I am not a mental health professional.
Additionally, this work cannot serve the role of crisis services. If you are in crisis or need immediate help please call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE
I have experienced sexual trauma. Is this work still a good fit for me?
Most likely, AND if you are in a phase of needing more acute support around processing your trauma, we will discuss what kind of care team is most appropriate for you to have in place outside of our work together.
How much time do I need to commit outside of sessions?
Honestly, not that much. The power in this work comes from integrating it at a doable, digestible pace.
Depending on which practices resonate with you, the majority of our work could happen in the sessions. For some clients, transformation is most supported by some simple practices that take 5-10 minutes at either the beginning or end of the day. For others, a 30-minute practice twice a month supplements our sessions just fine.
As you become more versed in the frameworks we use, practices become more integrated into your daily routines and feel less like something you need to set aside extra time for.