Together We'll Explore
Relationship Structures
and your personal ideals; to monogamy or to nonmonogamy?!
Your 'Yes'
what resounding, celebratory, curious enthusiasm feels like in your body, mind, and emotions
Your 'No'
how to listen more respectfully to your own boundaries and needs, and how to feel good communicating NOs
Unlearning
shame and detrimental beliefs about pleasure so that you can claim it with more ease and empowerment
Trusting
your own knowing, and listening to your body’s wisdom, so you can be your most badass, fully-expressed, internally-aligned self
Working With
the more challenging aspects of our experiences (like anxiety and overwhelm) to love ourselves more deeply
Queerness
and/or your questioning.
Even if you’re in a hetero relationship
Voice
both inside and out of the bedroom, to deepen intimacy and nurture interdependence
Releasing
the conditioning that makes you feel responsible for other people and their emotions
Kink
and/or how to develop BDSM relationships that support your life
What's Included:
30-Minute Consultation Call
If your application seems like we might be a good fit, we can do a brief, free-of-charge Zoom call as the next step. This is an opportunity to ask any questions you have about how this work works and what you might want to know about me as a practitioner.
75-Minute Intake Session
Our collaboration begins with an in-depth intake questionnaire so that our first session can hone right in on some useful tools. Generally we use the intake session to establish goals and metrics for our work together, and make sure you leave with at least one tangible thing to implement.
60-Minute Virtual Coaching Sessions
In these sessions, I hold the container for you to explore what’s present in your pleasure and/or non-monogamy journey. I will offer you specific tools when appropriate, mirror when it’s helpful, and offer you unconditional support for embodying your right fit life.
Typically, clients work with me for a minimum of six months, either weekly or bi-weekly. Some clients work with me to address a specific scenario, and others work with me on an ongoing basis.
(We meet via Zoom, unless you prefer voice calls without video.)
Personalized Toolkit
The personalized practices we create in our time together are yours to keep forever, giving you the opportunity to deepen into this work as much as you like in between our sessions. This includes:
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recorded meditations
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personalized rituals
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pdf worksheets + journal prompts
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and whatever we come up with that is unique to you
What's Different About this Approach
It’s not talk therapy
It also isn’t mindfulness or yoga therapy. It also isn’t a “how-to” course for discovering pleasure. We combine working with the mind with unwinding protective patterns in the body to allow desire to arise and, more importantly, teach you how to listen to those desires so you can express them in your life. In our sessions, we’re centering bodily experience and emotional presence in a dance of unveiling what you most want (often it’s different than what we *think* we want). This is a hybrid of body, brain, and spiritual processing to build you a personalized toolkit of the pleasure practices that we create together, specifically for you. We’ll do experiential practices in session together and compile you a library of your own tools to keep using without me.
I take a holistic approach
Much of what you’ll find in the world of pleasure coaching is focused on sex as the primary gateway to the concept of pleasure. Understandably, there are many pleasure coaches who are focused on your sexual pleasure. My pleasure framework is a truly holistic model, in which we look at balancing your pleasure across four realms of being. This approach helps with your sexual pleasure, and recognizes that your pleasure-based life is so much more than that.
Modernized practices that work for You
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Pleasure charts to assess where your pleasure focus needs to be
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Dance/movement/crafting prompts to express things that are stuck
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Guided somatic inquiry to tend to your unseen parts
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Breathwork tailored to specific physical and emotional processing
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Journaling sprints to discover deeper desires
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Mirror work / affirmations to boost your worthiness
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Solo sexuality practices to fall in love with your own touch and expand your sensation - vocabulary
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Sound expression exercises to practice claiming your voice
Hear From Our Community
Irene has a very calming and warm presence that really allows you to feel safe opening up and being vulnerable. She does a wonderful job of creating permission for people to explore at their own pace and to go slowly. She also has helped me tremendously in becoming more aware of what my body and my intuition are telling me and in general helping me become more embodied
-DL
Working with Irene was a pivotal and magical moment in my life. When we first began to work together, I was an absolute mess. Overwhelmed by life, by the reality of my life partner falling for someone else, and the difficulty of trying to navigate a polyamorous dynamic change. Throughout our time together I always felt safe with Irene. She held space for me when I needed it most, and gave me so much wise counsel. Counsel I live by to this very day. She encouraged and taught me how to connect with myself on a deeper level than was ever possible previously. Which has been foundational in building trust in myself. This body / mind / emotional synchronicity has become the cornerstone of my newfound lease on life. I know now that I can walk through the harshest storms and dance in the sun while being true to myself. That no matter what happens, I'll be ok. If you are on the fence about reaching out to Irene; allow me to give you a big smile and push. Your life will be better for having worked with her.
-JH
Irene spoke to me from experience couched in kindness, honesty, curiosity, awareness and genuine interest as my somatic pleasure coach. That title doesn't even cover it all as her gifts are woven into many parts of my life and we together found my best practices. It was very personal and specific to me. She was simply and honestly present in our sessions together. I will forever be grateful for the insights, dynamic development and many processes she introduced me to and helped me incorporate into my life practice.
—EJ
Is this Right for Me?
You are here because...
You believe...
… this doesn’t have to be so hard.
You have...
… an inkling (or a full-fledged knowing) that pleasure is liberatory.
You feel a...
… craving to go deeper with yourself.
… yearning for wholeness and intimacy.
… readiness to up-level your self-love.